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Originally Posted by avlady
you were being manipulated, too young to understand and maybe you were needy at the time it happened. i don't really mean needy in a bad way but you never experienced a good relationship yet so you didn't know any better. we all need love and sometimes we get bad love. it is hard to get out of a relationship, especially a bad one, you never know what the abuser will do next. i've been in relationships where i've seen the red flags and ignorded them because i didn't want to be alone and i thought any love was a good love, which it is not. i was really lonely and had a hard time relating with people so i usually went with guys that would make the first move. this led to me not getting the people i really wanted. great sacrifices here too.good luck.
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It's exactly like you said... I was too young, and I was feeling too alone. I was also physically alone, which brought me to experience depressive episodes. Therefore, I was completely vulnerable... And yes, that was my very first"serious" relationship, so I really didn't know any better.
I can understand where you come from, even though I don't act like you. I mean, the thing is that I had never been a very, like, relationship-person: I was kind of scared of them (I don't know why, honestly). And right after this whole story, my trust has been completely broken again. So, even though I may be too young for thinking this way, I'm despising everything related to any kind of romantic or sexual intimacy. I do feel lonely, but I need a long truce. So we're kind of opposites. :')