I would feel the same if my T did that. So far he has been always gentle when I feel down. Sometimes he asks me if I can look at him to but does so nicely and if I don't want to, he will leave me alone. But eventually I will try because it does help me. He can challenge me sometimes but I would feel hurt if he was harsh when I'm feeling down. But I'm sensitive and I don't like to be talked harsh in general. Since this is the first time she did that, maybe she is just trying different approach, I read some therapists do that. I think it's ok to tell her that you didn't like it and it stops you from being able to talk to her.