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Originally Posted by kaorikuran
Oh, I see. Of course recovery is more important! I just wanted to give a proper name to this experience. Also because people didn't really react like it was something serious; I mean, of course they were shocked, sorry, and empathized with me, but they didn't give off any "you should have called for help, this is abuse" vibe. So I thought that I was just exaggerating with thinking that way, and that I was going nuts. That's why I asked. 
Thank you for empathizing with me.  |
I find that happens too often when trying to explain abusive situations/experiences. I don't know if it's because one is standing before them to tell the story or not. Plus, I believe it places them in a position to feel powerless to help. And if they know the abuser even less reactive they become.
I also had asked because in my own history, it really wasn't until my mom had tossed out a label to me, when I began to understand why the things in my marriage continued to cycle year after year, month after month like they did and I was able to seek help.