No one leads anyone to cheat. Decent people leave if they are unhappy. They don’t cheat.

Honestly I don’t think it’s a right reason to stay with a man because otherwise he’d lose his job and place to live. He is a grown man and can find different place to live and work. I am not saying break up tomorrow but your reasoning surprises me. And I’d certainly postpone marriage.

I don’t think it’s your boyfriends place to advice you to see a counselor or not and you don’t really need to be ready. If this relationship falls through you run a risk of third engagement to a wrong guy unless you break this pattern. So I think you might be ready to seek help

I wonder if you tend to rush into commitment? This is second engagement to an abusive man? Not just dating but planning to marry them