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Originally Posted by DP_2017
LT
Ugh that was so uncomfortable to read. He's for sure not comfortable with it even if he claims to be. I know terminating would be hard but so would working with someone who won't embrace and kindly work with all this. I'd run. I could not work with a t like that. If you choose to stick with him you are super brave and I wish you well. I'm sorry he was like this
Very unsettling. All the best to you
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Yes, uncomfortable to read is a good way to put it. I don't have a good feeling about him being able to work through this stuff with you, LT
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Originally Posted by toomanycats
LT - while your session sounds so flipping hard & your T sounds like he may not be the best fit for working with transference & attachment, I want to point out how amazingly brave and strong it is for you to continue to be honest and open with him: to say "it is kind of about you, not the space" rather than what I think a lot of people might do and slip into denial just to save the "relationship." - that always leads to MORE pain and nothing good.
Continue to be honest, LT. There's NOTHING WRONG with you or what you want or need. I promise you that. His discomfort is his own issues that he should be working out with supervisors to become a better therapist. Transference is a powerful tool in therapy -- fear of it, avoiding it, is doing a disservice to the therapy and the client.
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AND, YASS GIRLLLLL, you are brave as $h!t!!! If you read my session account, you will see I basically said nothing for an hour, and couldn't even get out the fact I overreacted to her cancelling last week.
On a different note, I am trying hard to push past my defense of SHUT DOWN/RUN AWAY, and asked if I could see her later this week.