If I'm going back to school to get a better job, I will be concerned about paying for myself let alone another person. He's not sure what to do in the interim because he doesn't feel like he has many other job skills and he has to work around the part time hours he has as an adjunct professor (he's trying to become a full time professor but there's only so many openings for his expertise). The only other job he feels comfortable doing involves him going overseas and that would mean he would lose his adjunct position which would make it even harder to get a full time job. Basically, he needs a temporary one year position but then we'll live in two different states. Or get another job in a different field, but he'll hate it and be stressed over it and that would be hard to live with.

He wants a two bedroom apartment so he can have his own space. Which I understand...I'm clingy and he needs it for his own mental health. But, I can barely afford a one bedroom with a full time job and I'll lose that to become a full time student again. And then there would be the issue of paying for his cat (that would raise my rent) plus space for his things.

And if he dies before he gets the job? Well, there's nothing I can do about it if that happens. It would be sad, but I would move on in some way. Maybe I would just "marry" my job. That's what I already do in order to not be so lonely.

It's not like I disagree with you, but it's not my decision.