There might be nothing wrong with casual hook ups if both people are up front about it. But as previous poster said his judgement is clearly off. If you two have never met it is dangerous (for both people) to go to strange people’s houses, what was he thinking? What goes through people’s heads?

I actually recall now similar story. I can relate. I totally forgot about it.

I had a first date once that I thought didn’t go too well meaning we had zero in common besides working in the same field, which I originally thought would be good enough for at least nice conversation. It was a brief lunch time coffee date due to bad timing. I had no intentions to see him again and granted he didn’t ask, which was a relief.

I was totally shocked when he started messaging (I don’t recall now if he was calling or texting or emailing as it was years ago) asking me to come to his house that very night. He sent me his address. When I declined, he kept on it the next day too. Asking me to come to his house in the evening, late evening. And not like saying: come over for a party or I cook dinner. Obviously come over for a hook up. I don’t recall what made him stop asking. I likely just stopped replying.

The most bizarre thing was is that I had no sex or romance talk with him at all neither on the phone nor on that brief date. And I didn’t even show any interest in him, I am not even flirty type whatsoever. Whatever compelled that strange man to assume I’ll go to his house is beyond me. I knew it wouldn’t be dangerous because I knew where he worked so it would be major trouble for him but still why would he think I’d do that???

Same here, do this kind of people think there is a woman who would agree to it? Are they so full of themselves or as previous poster suggests ask such things when drinking?