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Old May 15, 2018, 12:01 PM
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Originally Posted by CantExplain View Post
Maybe try a dating service. If your dates go badly, that might be something your T can help with. But a T can't find dates.
Huh? Did anything in my original message indicate that I wanted my T to FIND DATES?

It did not.

I was struggling with weight and eating issues. My current T and I dealt with this issue, week in and week out. I lost the extra pounds.

I felt stuck in a rotten job. My current T and I dealt with this poisonous situation and I moved into a better job that pays 20K more and is closer to my home for a better commute.

I had a stress related health problem. It has resolved.

This progress happened because of the checking in, sharing, and feeling of having a place of support to make change and taking consistent steps to make change. I've done a lot and I'm proud of it. I don't recognize the old me some days.

I'm not naive enough to think that my T can find me a date. But I have made ENORMOUS progress by working with my T on other issues, and I had hoped to do the same with this issue. I had hoped to be able to tell T about places I was going where potential partners might be; how I am processing being single at this stage of my life; about how some of the dates that I have had are going; how e-dating can be kind of distressing. I felt those would be good lines of inquiry. But my efforts to do so seem to go nowhere and I wrote previously about how the talks between me and T seem to run aground.

THAT was the issue that I was hoping to explore here on PC. I've gotten some valuable feedback and I thank others for providing that for me.

blessings,
MCL
Thanks for this!
CantExplain