Keytones,
What a heart breaking story....and that you had to be there by yourself...there are just no words. If my spouse was so ill most of my sibs and their spouses would show up if I needed them. Your story hits home because my brother just had a double lung transplant in late September.
The wait for the lungs was a harrowing, emotional experience for his family and all his sibs. We are still all in this one day at atime with him and his family. So sorry your family could see past their own needs and support you. Sometimes life just sucks. There is no better word to describe some experiences. I hope you are able talk about it and somehow find some comfort for the long run. YOU ARE AMAZING!