<font color="purple">(((Hugs)))) I can relate far too well... I have struggled with this same issue with my husband since we been together... and thats 21 yrs... He doesnt do it anymore, or at least hasnt in a cple yrs.. but it took a very long time for him to stop... I hate it when he touches me when I am sleeping... absoultely hate it! We went thru a time when I would wake up and it would be more than touching, he would be on me... I would freak, he would get insulted, even though he knew/knows my background... and no matter how much I tried to explain to him how this made me feel, he continued... it wasnt until after I cheated on him and we went to counseling that he finally had a light bilb moment and realized that what he was doing was no different than what the abusers did to me... and he didnt like being put in that catergory... so at first it was his ego he was worried about then later he was concerned about mine... its a long story and lots has happened and we now have a good marriage and relationship...

I would have a firm discussion about how you are feeling.. and explain to him that when he touches you when you are sleeping that it is not consented and makes you feel violated... and if it continues maybe try counseling together to help him understand or maybe think about breaking it off with him if he isnt going to respect your well being... Good luck! </font>