I've been wondering about something, and I'd like other input on it.

Could we rightly say that people always commit suicide because of a lack of control?

Could addressing that lack of control prevent suicides?

I've been giving suicide a lot of thought in the last year because I was a fan of Chris Cornell. Sometimes I feel suicidal, not that often, and not usually very seriously. It's usually like an immediate, brief thought I have in certain stressful moments like, "that's the answer!" Very rarely has it gone further than that and even then I didn't do much.

What's useful about this is that I always feel like that in times when I feel like I have no control, no options, nothing works, there's no solution, there's no right answer. The severity of my thoughts go with how long the stimuli goes on.

I thought it was just me, that I had an extreme reaction to things I couldn't control. But then I was reading about suicide and someone likened suicide to a person in a burning building who makes the choice between the fire and jumping out the window, because they are faced with this awful thing and have no other choice and they have this instinctual response.

And I sat on that for some time and I realized how often I was reminded of it when faced with new information about suicide.

I'm wondering how much control plays a part in suicide, maybe not a new concept to anyone but me, but just in case...

I've told myself that the next time I find myself feeling that way I want to try to find something to feel I have control over, even if it's something small.

And, over the years, some of the pain has been taken out of stimuli for me because I learned truths over the years that de-scarified the situation.

If we thought about it more that way, specifically, about finding a sense of control, finding opportunities to exercise more healthy control over our lives, and maybe learning to have a new perspective on things we can't control, how much might it help with suicidal thoughts and tendencies?

I hope I'm not offending anyone. I know, like telling people to reduce the stress in their lives, that saying you need to exercise control sounds trite in comparison to so many problems, but it would be a personal thing, what works for the individual in the moment. And could it help? Not be a magic fix.

I just wanted to raise a dialogue on control and suicide. How much is control the problem? How much could it help?