When we become friends with someone, we have our idea of what that person is like, what kind of friend they are, etc. They may or may not be that person we have made them to be in our head!

I think when people surprise us by letting us down there were signs we weren't reading about that person or, in my case, there were times I didn't ask the person their point of view, just assumed it was like mine because they were my friend.

Just like us, other people can have trouble saying they don't enjoy being with somone else, don't want to hurt feelings or whatever so they don't do anything until it is so bad, they just do it all-or-nothing.

Other people not wanting to be friends with us is always about the other person, never about us! Yes we may annoy them in some way but it is their responsbility to tell us about that and/or not to "pretend" to be friends if they can't get by whatever it is annoys them!