I think the rule of thumb for feelings in t - in how i do therapy, and how i recommend everybody do it if they want to be happy like me (freakin lawyers) - is kinda like this: if a client is talking about something terrible that happened to the client, then no you dont have to worry about the ts feelings, like you might have to with a relative or a friend.

But, if a client is talking about something they perceived the t as doing, and there could be transference involved that is clouding the clients judgment - and by transference i mean classic transference, not eroticized transference - then the client should use this as a learning opportunity in how to deal with uncomfortable, close situations, dealing with another persons feelings. Because a large part of why things may be uncomfortable is the clients past; the ts presence is interchangeable. Again, assuming a competent t. A good enough t.