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Perna: Interesting article I read:

http://www.blogsrater.com/artdb-is-posting-children-s-pictures-online-dangerous.html

From the site you linked...

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<font size=4>Keys to Sexual Abuse Prevention:</font>

1. Understand the problem
Few parents have a true realization of the problem. Years of media myths and bad information from advocate organizations has ensured a lack of real understanding. Parents need to be willing to address the subject with an open mind, and learn more about how molestation really occurs in order to protect their children.

2. Don’t assume you’re already Ok
Surveys show the vast majority of parents think their children are protected. However, when the same parents are given knowledge tests on the subject, none score high enough to provide any sort of protection. Most parents still make common mistakes that actually help molesters out. Parents are getting no respect from pedophiles, who brag about how clueless parents are to stop their deeds. Let’s change that. Don’t make the mistake of assuming your child is already OK or would tell you if something happened, because chances are that isn’t the case.

3. Address all aspects
Your children are not protected simply because you talk about their private parts, or even good or bad touches. There are multiple concepts that go into effective prevention, and all need to be addressed in order to protect your child. Our programs address all subjects, such as conditioning, good and bad touches, basic prevention rules, body awareness, people perceptions, and vulnerability issues.

4. Address the psychology of abuse
True prevention is more than just giving your children facts about what to do. Our programs also build them up in areas of susceptibility that make them easy targets, giving them the psychological tools to withstand an incident.

5. Once isn’t enough
The problem with many safety programs, and most parent efforts when it comes to teaching safety, is that giving your child a few safety rules to follow isn’t enough. Children need context for the instructions to make sense, and repetition to ensure that they will be able to use the information in a true emergency. Our children’s books give kids both of that. If you can commit to 10 or 15 minutes before bedtime once every couple weeks, we can do the rest. Your child will obtain the skills they need to defeat abuse.

6. Getting started.....
A. Our Parent’s Book is filled with everything parents need to know. A full version can be downloaded for free from our site using the link below. We suggest you print out a chapter at a time, and read it when you have a spare moment.

B. Safety train your kids with the Children’s Books. These books help parents give kids complete safety training without the guesswork, in a fun way that kids will enjoy. Get started today with our collection of free online books for sexual abuse prevention


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I've been reading through the Parent's Guide to Prevention that's available as a free download at their site. It's lengthy, but seems to be well grounded in reality and is concerned with cutting through any myths as a means of presenting an accurate picture of the reality of childhood sexual abuse.

Others who might wish to read the guide should be aware that the content can be disturbing and possibly, triggering. For example, it's discomforting to know that most sexual abuse unfolds at the hands of those known to the child. Most of us probably do not want to consider that those we identify as friends, family members or holding respected roles within society (e.g. teachers, ministers, counselors) would ever do something recognized as harmful to our child.

The guide is also challenging in pointing out that nudity and physical touch are part of the human experience. Sometimes, we see abuse where no abuse is really taking place. For example, the author asks us to consider if the following situations are an indication that sexual abuse is occurring: A mother who breastfeeds her infant; a family who bathes or sleeps together; a grandmother kissing a child who doesn't want to be kissed; a teacher hugging a child; a family who goes to nude beaches, etc.

The guide also points out that most molesters are not monsters. In many other respects we may know them to be kind, helpful, ethical, respected, etc. Yet, wouldn't we all prefer that child abusers could be easily identified by horns on their head and cloved feet? Then we could tell our children, "Stay clear of the monsters but it's okay to go to the park with that nice neighbor who brought us over a casserole when daddy had that accident and was out of work."

I haven't yet gotten to the part where they talk about prevention, but what I've read so far has certainly kept me reading.