I would hope that it would be a comfort to my H, but I have no idea since he slapped me w/ divorce papers on Friday and said he wanted out.

Why I'm trying to get information about all of this? I guess I am trying to understand it for me, although he isnt ready for that, he too is in denial. I guess I feel better if I understand what he is going through since he is unwilling to share with me. And most importantly, I think it is helping me to move on, understand that our marriage ended b/c of this and not b/c of all that hateful things he said to me or the fact that in his eyes, he wish we would have waited to get married b/c then he wouldnt have married me. Wonderful isnt it. But I think learning all of this allows my self esteem to heal, for my heart to heal and be able to move on b/c not only did he shut me out but his family as well and so I'll give him what he wants, the divorce, and move on with my life.

But one day, he'll know that I cared and tried to help....But I thank you for sharing yesterday and everyday b/c I have gained so much insight and will continue to gain insight through your experiences as well as others. So you are much appreciated for this....keep fighting this and realize that you aren't alone in this world and I hope one day that you can face this willingly b/c you deserve all your heart desires.