I wouldn't say I am totally sober, but I am definitely working towards not ever binge drinking again. But thank you I don't know how I can separate "judging" and "trust". I had a friend who ended up addicted to heroin. She started breaking into cars, constantly asking for money, etc. I tried to help her, and I loaned her money to get her license back under the stipulation she was to begin to search for a job. Payback wasn't totally necessary, but she needed to start working and pay for me when we went out sometimes. I found out later she was "upset" over the fact I had pushed her to work and was complaining about me shortly after to a mutual friend.. She got fired from her next two jobs for being late and I haven't spoken to her since.

So do I judge addicts? Yes, I do. Do I support them if they want help? Yes, I do. IMO you have to judge an addict to a degree or they wont ever feel the need to get help. Knowing what these people behave like I would be very hesitant to welcome one into my life and I would be very cautious about helping a friend/family member through addiction.