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Originally Posted by QuietMind
No, I really don't think you're making too much about it. This therapist sounds...judgmental and lacks empathy
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Thanks a lot. I've noticed that she's a bit distant and cold and has little to no emotion when I talk about things that bother me. I'm not saying she has to be super emotional but my last therapist was gentle and I could see she was putting herself in my shoes. -sighs-
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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
Not making too much of this, she invalidates your story when she tells you to forgive, this is your story and your pain and you get to do with it what you choose, you "forgive" in your own time if at all.
I'm so sorry, can you look for a new T?
This T is not holding your feelings in any kind of regard but instead trying to find a solution to them and asserting her solution is the right way. Btw if she said to me what she said to her friend, I don't think we would be friends anymore.
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Thank you. I had a problem with her using the word "pardon". We were talking about how forgiveness can be about the other person but my issue was that she was focused on me forgiving my grandma and "pardoning" her. I have a problem with that, too, with the fact that she is trying to come up with these ways of helping me but I should be able to go at my own pace. And same! I would be offended if I were her friend. =/
I'm thinking of looking for a new T but...-sighs- I don't want to come off as hot headed, you know? She already thinks I have a "short fuse". But I keep trying to remind myself that my feelings come first. My mom is super pissed at my therapist, though, and wants me to see a new one. I'm going to give her a few more chances and see how things go.
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Originally Posted by autonoe
That sounds really judgmental and inappropriate. I don't know how anyone could fault you for the feelings you have toward your grandma, with all that you have said about her here. I'd be looking for a new T.
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Thank you. I thought it was just me that thought she was being judgmental. It's hard for me to get close to my grandma. I've tried for so long but when I see that she's being nice it comes back to bite me every time. Of course I would be on guard. =/
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Originally Posted by toomanycats
I would very much like to crotch-kick your therapist.
That is all.
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Originally Posted by weaverbeaver
Get in line [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]
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Ahaha! Thanks a lot!
