Hello hishou: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. I'm sorry I can't really offer much of anything with regard to your particular concerns. I'm just an old recluse. So I don't have much of anything to say when it comes to issues related to friendship. Hopefully there will be some other members, here on PC, who will have some insights they can offer. My best wishes to you...