I got a knock on the door today...it was the mail delevery for a registered piece of mail for me & one for my husband (it was forwarded to my farm here in KY from my California home).

I told her to send the rest of the mail back to CA because my husband is no longer here. I looked over the piece of mail...IRS. That usually isn't good.

Well, it wasn't good.....the surprise was the amount of back taxes that were owed & where did that come from anyway? I hadn't heard about anything before this.....not one teeny tinny little peep about any back taxes being owed.

I called my husband immdeiately....not knowing exactly where he was after he left her last Wednesday to drive back to CA. I found out......I found out after I pried the information out of him. Yea, back taxes from 2005. What income did I even have then & when in the #&)) did he get this information about back taxes & of course, the only question that exists in this rediculous game of marriage....WHY DIDN'T YOU COMMUNICATE THIS TO ME WHEN YOU FOUND OUT????? Oh he found out 6 months ago that he owed the back taxes. According to him, it took him 2 months to find the paperwork on the taxes to see what he had done wrong. Sounds like it was inheritance money from my Mother that he handled wrong on the taxes & it was supposed to be income (not inheritance). Oh course comes the normal part he his immature nature.....he hears something & thinks he knows exactly what he was told over 1 year before then, so when it came to the taxes, he didn't bother to check (why should he....he's knowledgable about everything) with anyone about how to handle something he really knew nothing about.

After he found all the paperwork.....& checked it out....you would think he would tell me then.....NO. I need information so that I can handle things correctly. If I had known, I wouldn't have spend some of the money I did spend....now it isn't there so save my @$$.

I am so angry at people who think that the information they are holding onto isn't something that is either important (as the previous ranch owned did when my horse was exposed to strangles & got really ill), or it doesn't matter....they think it will just go away if they don't say anything. What people don't understand that lying isn't only telling lies, but it is lying by ommision.....which can sometimes be even worse....lies can usually be seen for what they are, but when something isn't even there, kept secret from you.....that is one huge way to LIE.

Of course, we had the conversation before Christmas that without communication, this marriage was doomed to complete failure ....& you have to communicate or I will end this marriage completely. Of course, I got the but you are so much better off with my income too, you can just continue to tolerate me....I am the way I am & I CAN'T do anything about it.

Then I talk to my daughter a bit.....her justification was that people just forget to say things about something they get in the mail if they don't say something immediately....I just wasn't there until September for several months & then again in December.....I don't know about anyone else, but when I get a piece of mail telling me that I owe the IRS that much money, I DON'T JUST FORGET TO TELL THE OTHER PERSON IN THE MARRIAGE.

Another thing I hate it when people say such lame things, trying to justify such unacceptable behavior (or any kind). People are so busy being tollerant of other people's behaviour that everyone forgets to behave right towards others....because they know that their bad behavior will be justified by someone so it's OK. I am really sick of this attitude that is rampent in this world today.

I will probably never come down from this soap box......I don't know when I will even stop seeing RED at this point. I thought my anxiety level was high when he was around, but this just tops everything he has ever done. It would be something if communication wasn't the TOPIC of the marriage, but to blow me off & disrespect me this way....This just hammered the nail into his coffin.

Oh, & the "subject."...because of another post I posted under relationships.....only now my comment was even more appropriate....he really didn't have money to spend on anything especially when he was keeping this information away from me about all this huge amount that's owed.

One really angry,
Debbie