My parents just got by financially all my life. I put myself through college, got married & were a 2 career family earning a good income. We got a condo in Jackson Hole Wyo for our 2 week winter ski vacation every year. My parents enjoyed having a place to vacatikn to that they didn't have to pay for except getting there. It was always a relaxing family get away with my birthday right in the middle of it. They got to do lots of things they wouldn't have been able to otherwise....& got to have some nice family memories now they arw no longer alive.

At the end of my mom's life, I caught the home care person abusing her. Once I finally got rid if that home care person I stayed 24/7 with my mom until I found her a safe place where the home care person & all involved with her couldn't find my mom. Prorecting her caused me trauma that caused PTSD but it was somwthing I felt I owed my mom because even in her dysfunctional qays she was always there for me.