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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Honestly, if a guy is making future plans with you SO soon and only after a few dates, that's a big red flag. And he's saying he's very fond of you after only a few dates? Another red flag. Seems to me like he rushed in.
It was probably nothing YOU specifically did, but all about him and his own readiness -- he could be looking for immediate sex, or something more casual, despite him saying he was willing to wait. He may have realized he was rushing in, then may have decided to shop around. It could have nothing to do with you, so do consider that possibility.
After only a few weeks, you couldn't be that attached to him, right? After only a few dates? Plus, you weren't 100% interested to begin with. You move on by meeting and dating other people.
Unfortunately, online you get all types of men. Some are not honest and some are just looking for casual hookups. I suspect he lied about his nan being in the hospital.
Keep your head up though. There are good guys out there, even online. My sister met her boyfriend of four years on Match.com. He is a great guy.
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Thank you, golden_eve, that makes me feel a lot better
- the rushing and the readiness did come to my mind. His readiness to arrange our first date after only an afternoon of texting also suggests perhaps he was indeed rushing. I suppose being told all those positive things had me thinking maybe I wasn't giving him a chance and could try seeing it the way he did - obviously that totally backfired haha. Oh well! As icecreamkid said,
bullet dodged 
You're right, there are plenty of genuinely good guys out there. I'm gonna consider a paid membership site, hoping that'll be a little different