Hello jmrm: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry your husband is having such a difficult time. But it is wonderful that he has a wife who is as completely committed to his welfare as you are. Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of some help... the first 2 by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D.:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/helping...et-help/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/helping...ealth-concern/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...essional-help/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/helping...ntal-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-ways...illness/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/p...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/p...der/treatment/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1

My best wishes to you both...