My husband was "talking" to one of his friends like that. I stumbled on it and was crushed. I made him pick stop talking to her or I'd leave. He picked me that was 4-5 years ago and she text me 10 days or so asking if she can start over (She was both our friends for 10+ years). I talked to him (The way they act is I over reacted). Well her text sent me into a tailspin of uncertainty and I realized how fragile our relationship is. Maybe I was being a insensitive *****?

I really think you need stop anything that your wife would see as cheating. You may have to leave her with your credit cards? So you can't call those type lines, block porn sites. Maybe created a white list on your computer on sites you can go to.

It's best to be honest. Your going to be on the road again and you need to create a wellness plan to handle yourself. Maybe internet therapy while you're away? Maybe you can call your wife to "talk" to her like that? Have you done this before to her?

You can't do anything other then apologies and put preventative measures in place. It sounds like you're in a mixed episode. When do you see your Therapist and pdoc? You may want to call you couples therapist and see if you can get in sooner.