Whenever you feel like you annoyed, upset, or bothered someone and they say you are fine and they are not bothered or mad at you, is there a higher chance of them actually being annoyed or mad at you but they just don’t want to tell you or do they usually mean what they say? I know actions speak louder than words, but sometimes the only way to ask is through texts, which unfortunately cuts off the body language portion of communication.

In that case, you could apologize and even if the person is mad or annoyed, they could say you are fine. I feel like if you have a gut feeling you are annoying them, it is always best to apologize even if they say you did nothing just in case they are secretly annoyed. Doing this, in a way, may make them secretly glad you apologize and could actually rectify the problem if it is minor enough and it was accidental.

I know from experience if someone accidentally annoyed me and they apologized before I even said anything, I will say they are fine to spare them trouble but at the same time, secretly be glad they owed up to their mistake. I am not going to respond and say, “Yeah you really are annoying, leave me alone.” Instead, I’ll just say, “You’re fine, it’s okay. Don’t worry about it.” That way I don’t cause further problems and make things worse and I think a lot of people take the same route. They hint at is but accept your apology and let it go at the same time if it is minor enough. Is it common for people to say you are fine even if they are secretly annoyed or mad? I feel like it is.

Do you apologize when you feel like you annoyed someone even if they say you are fine or haven’t said anything? I feel like doing this is sort of the right thing to do. There probably are times where they really are not mad or annoyed with you but I still feel like it is common for someone to secretly seeth in anger or annoyance and not say anything and just wait to see if you get the hint. If someone apologizes to you and you were secretly annoyed, do you spare the trouble by saying they are fine and be secretly greatful they apologized? I’ve just been wondering and wanted to see what you guys thought.