I understand. I often get tripped up in thinking I have to perform in order to get approval. But I try and remember that...when a baby is born that baby is loved simply for existing; it hasn't done anything to deserve love other than just exist. In fact it is incredibly demanding. I think that is the way God loves us and we should work to think of ourselves and others as worthy. We can't judge based on performance because people are gifted while others are not and it is through no fault or accomplishment of their own. Yes, sometimes people work to do more or be more and we can applaud them, but I don't think they are any more worthy as a human being of receiving anything special. Yet we don't live in a culture like that because of how we treat celebrities who are often just physically attractive (just born with better genes!). It's hard to remember these things but I think those who are parents understand that kind of love and acceptance better than others.