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Originally Posted by maybeblue
I don't think you should leave your T. I actually think that was a good, honest response to what you told him. I think that he said quite a few of good affirming things in there, but you focused on the part where he said he needs to get comfortable with transference...implying he isn't already comfortable. And I can totally understand that...because I do the same thing...focus on the kind of negative remark in all of the positive.
I wouldn't avoid talking to him about transference. He always said he wasn't experienced at it...and I don't know how you can be comfortable with something you don't know a whole lot about...BUT he is willing to learn more and get comfortable with it. So I would say keep doing what you are doing and explain it to him over and over if you need to.
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Thanks, some good points here. I definitely tend to focus on the negative rather than the positive. Doesn't help that I'm an editor by trade--where feedback is "You missed these 2 things" not "You fixed these 200 errors." I think you're right, that he's willing to try says something--says a lot, really. It probably also doesn't help that as I've explained transference to him before has been regarding what I experienced with ex-MC, which was an extreme end of it. And not what I'm experiencing here at all. So maybe he assumes it's more like that, which (understandably!) freaks him out. When...that was also a case where ex-MC was very much feeding into it, which is something I don't think I have to worry about with this T.