I apologize TOO much, which might get annoying. In my topic in this sub-forum I discuss how I’m always worrries about upsetting my boyfriend. That leads to a lot of unneeded apologies. He’ll frequently say, “what are you apologizing for?” in our conversations simply because I take the blame for everything.

If something bad happens to us, I get mad at myself for not be proactive enough.
If he seems upset though he really isn’t, I got anxious and do a general apology.

I do agree that if you think you’ve offended someone, it’s best to clear the air and try to take responsibility. But if you’re self-destructive like me, just be cautious of how often you say you’re sorry. I lack the confidence I need because I’m never 100% sure I’m doing what other people would expect of me, and that really shouldn’t matter.

Edit: to answer if you should just say “you’re fine” to people who upset you, I think it depends. If it’s a minor offense, yeah. But if they’re a regular part of your life and they have a habit of doing whatever it is that bothers you, it’s probably good to address their actions as to avoid passive aggressive conflict. I know there have been times where a friend or my boyfriend does something that I don’t agree with, and it’s so much worse to let it drag on than to be honest with them. It really depends, though, again. If they mess up one time on one thing, no need to make a scene.