I think maybe you're using ideas from a psychodynamic framework but that's not the world your T lives in. Maybe you can communicate with him better if you figure out where he's coming from. I don't think there is anything complicated or not understandable about what you're saying. Feeling judged is a universal human experience. But he clearly is not operating from the viewpoint that therapy can help with unmet emotional needs and maybe he isn't so keen on understanding the influence of the past either. You can probably get more of what he has to offer when you start to understand where his strengths lie, not where you wish they lie.