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Old May 19, 2018, 09:53 PM
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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme View Post
Your T seems so very interested in working with you, but he is definitely a little judgmental. I truly think coming in with ex MC and ex T as live players had him alert to all this ahead, and vowing not to repeat any patterns(?) . If he doesn't understand attachment in adults, he might be offput that you DID transfer your focus from MC to him in a sense, (and that is what makes it a nice attachment issue, and not 10 percent creepy .

Anyone would feel judged by a vulnerability expressed about the stone, and the listener reacting by saying whoa, that is too much intimacy. You thought that was safe, and he threw up a stop sign, maybe bc he is now outside his scope of practice, and knows it more than any personal rejection.

He is definitely out to compensate for MC IMO by being rock solid , but he also likes you.

I can't wait to read this. I heard a podcast discussing this book on how the clinicians came at the problems in treating us utterly disparately depending on their training and theoretical orientation and if they keep up with scholarship in the field. The thing is, they don't even always understand one another, never mind us.

https://www.amazon.com/Conundrums-Pr...d+predicaments

I do think you are so educated on attachment theory that you might know more about it than T's not practicing that way.

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair
“If he doesn't understand attachment in adults, he might be offput that you DID transfer your focus from MC to him in a sense, (and that is what makes it a nice attachment issue, and not 10 percent creepy” This is something you should tell your T so he can meet you where you are. It’s too bad you didn’t go to a psychodynamic therapist. It sounds like to me he is saying he is fine with helping you as long as there aren’t going to be romantic feelings.
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