[QUOTE=golden_eve;6130960]Hello and welcome to PC.

So how did you feel when your husband told you to shut up? That is not what love involves -- love does not involve disrespect. No one should be telling anyone to "shut up." And yes, that is a double standard. Have you pointed that out to him yet? Using this example and I'm sure many others?

How is your relationship otherwise? Based on this one example, I am wondering how respectful of you he is.

I realize now how my first post came across. He's not abusive; just not a "nice" fighter. It's hard to explain. The thing is, when he does that kind of thing, I throw it right back at him. We have a great relationship but not when it comes to arguments. They can be really heated. They were a lot worse before he started a certain medication. But please don't get me wrong, I know no one deserves to be spoken to like that. And I have spoken to him about his double standards but it doesn't seem to go any where.