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Originally Posted by whoknew005
“If he doesn't understand attachment in adults, he might be offput that you DID transfer your focus from MC to him in a sense, (and that is what makes it a nice attachment issue, and not 10 percent creepy” This is something you should tell your T so he can meet you where you are. It’s too bad you didn’t go to a psychodynamic therapist. It sounds like to me he is saying he is fine with helping you as long as there aren’t going to be romantic feelings.
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Thanks. Yes, I wonder if he's equating transference too much with romantic feelings. I mean, at one point I suppose I did have some romantic feelings for ex-MC, but it was really more the paternal stuff that had a strong effect on me. And that's more what I'm talking about with T. Maybe I need to explain that better? Though I could also seem him feeling weird about someone only 7 years younger than him feeling paternal toward him (especially since he recently expressed issues about feeling old!)