100 percent this. At least for my T, he thrives is messy intense feelings and welcomes all kinds of emotions, but he even once said about the show In Treatment how it is a nightmare to even contemplate a patient with a fatal attraction or vice versa( I am paraphrasing). I didn't understand therapy at first, and I even was kind of confused by the intimacy. Me having a BF and my T having a wife really is in the air. You have H and your T has W. This comes into play in all kinds of unspoken ways. I can t recall if it was Faulkner or Freud who said "The unconscious is never married", but that is the only time my T got super pissed off with me was for saying that. Maybe that is why he called you "honey" and tried to make you seem too young or younger?

I do think you have a very nuanced grip of transference , and a sophisticated, experienced take on being a therapy client LT. I bet your T is not used to that.