LT — lots of good stuff has been said and so I’ll just add a bit.

You can’t work on / resolve transference (or even attachment) etc this way — telling your therapist how and what they should do.

The magic / healing happens in the interaction.

And, it is the therapist’s job / knowledge / skill-set that they bring to bear to foster, modulate and sort out what’s going on for the client.

The client’s only job in the psychodynamic setup is to figure out if they can land at a place where they trust the therapist enough to let go and be vulnerable and let the therapist take care of everything else.

It sounds like you’re trying to be both therapist and client — and gawd knows I know the temptation to do that often (as Blondie points out) — but that’s not terribly helpful, imho.

Now, I don’t know if whatever you’re thinking of as transference or attachment issues or whatever is really all that stuff or something else altogether or some combination of a bunch of things but if that’s what it really is, then I’m really not sure how trying to explain any of this stuff to your therapist — who of his own acknowledgment, is completely unskilled in this modality — is helpful.

This isn’t something like CBT where telling someone what works or doesn’t is largely divorced from the relationship with the person themselves.