Hello Love: I see this is your first post, here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm afraid there's not a lot I could offer with regard to your situation. The fact that you're living in a house your bf apparently owns (?), & is paying the mortgage on, certainly makes the whole situation even more complicated. Plus there are apparently some cultural / interracial elements to your situation as well as the involvement of your bf's parents to whom he apparently defers. It all makes for a really complicated situation, from my perspective.

Here's a link to an article, from yourtango.com, on the subject of what to do when your significant other won't commit. (Articles from yourtango sometimes appear in PsychCentral's archives):

https://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr...e-won-t-commit

I wish you well...