Divine-- yep, an STD. I know it seems weird that I'm telling you guys, but I've been fairly open about it. I guess being in healthcare for 17 years, body stuff feels like...not very private at all, and it's a very minor one, treatable with antibiotics. My doc didn't test me for it initially because I went in a week after I came home, I wasn't having symptoms, and she'd only done a blood test (so I was negative for everything else). When I started having weird symptoms, I kind of knew what it was, but I thought maybeeee it was something else and it's embarrassing to call your doctor for this stuff again, so I waited about a month and a half *eye roll.*
Let me be frank, and you guys are probably going to nail me to the wall for this, because this is why I'm getting the harassment. I wasn't doing well yesterday, and was also in a hurry as I was on my lunch break, or would have elaborated more. Your doctor suggests when you test positive that you contact your partners, and I did. Of course, he's blocked me from everything. I was upset that this happened, so I messaged the woman I had always suspected he had been with when he was with me (yeah, I know, it's a huge part of the story I left out--I'm sorry, I suck. Don't ask me why I did it, don't reprimand me; I was angry that he made me ill). She flipped out. Said I was a liar, there was no way I was telling the truth, that he was with his son when I said I was in Tennessee. She's been with him for over a year. (He was with me November to March, always denied any other relationship.)
Yeah. Okay. He said he was with his son when he was sleeping with another woman as well.
She sent me a few more harassing emails as well. Said I wasn't the only person trying to "meddle" in her relationship (shouldn't that tell you something?) I finally said listen--this is what happened, I have receipts saying I was there, etc etc. I'm sorry, I know how it feels, I know you've known him for 9 years prior to this relationship--he told me that. Try 13 years. But he's lying to you. Please don't contact me again. She began posting things on Instagram and tagging me in them. I simply blocked them. Then I got that email from a "J ****" (his name) the other night. Initially, it sounded like him, the "you won't like the results" is very him. I'll admit, I responded. But it was brief, and calm, and final. Basically, an "I don't care, don't contact me again. And then I looked harder. I realized um...I've known this man a longgggg time. His grammar is better than this. He wouldn't use such an unsophisticated email address. He would never use "xoxo <3," and he really wouldn't contact me after all this time. It makes him feel more powerful to ignore me.
It's almost definitely her.
Tonight I got tagged in another Instagram to my SECOND account. How she knows that, I don't know. He doesn't even know it. And she called me a traitorous B. Really? How? he lied and cheated, and I never knew her. Am I traitor to womanhood? She told me women are only cheated on when they don't satisfy men, so...
She is making herself seem very unstable. I almost feel sorry for her; she is exactly what he looks for--she told me she doesn't care if I'm telling the truth.
I looked into the legality of the situation, and actually, neither of us can really do anything legal. If she continues to threaten me, I can maybe get a PPO, but that's it. So I'll just continue to block any throwaway emails or accounts that come my way. *shrug* I'm not going to continue to give life to this situation. It's over. It does affect my life, but I need to deal with that, and not them.
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