Hi,

This is my second post here, first outside of the introduction board.

I've been involved in a custody case for my 4 year old for the past year. His biological father was abusive towards me while we were together, and stalked me afterwards. He came to my parents house when I was living there and threatened to kill my dad and "ruin my life". My dad got a restraining order against him, but stupidly, I didn't. He wasn't involved in my son's life until this year after an incident in 2016 in which he refused to return my son to me at the pre-designated time and place, and I told him to take me to court to resume visits, as there was no parenting plan in place at the time, and I moved house shortly before the case started. As soon as I figured out how (I'm representing myself), I filed a motion to seal my physical address with the court based on his prior abuse and stalking, which became court order.

I've done everything I can do to keep my address out of his hands. A few days ago, I searched my name on Google and found that my full address was available on Whitepages and a few other people search sites. I requested that they take down the info. I've been careful about who I invite to my house, even if they're tangentially associated with him, they're not allowed to come over.

He requested DNA testing in court that was performed by the state Human Services department. I had to call them for something relating to my case, and the rep I spoke with had my physical address. I told her it was sealed and that the other party can't have it under any circumstances, and she told me she would note that and my physical address would stay confidential.

Yesterday, I got a copy of a court pleading from Human Services sent to my physical address. It had my physical address on the certificate of service portion, which is sent to both parties. The person who I've been trying to keep my address from in fear of being stalked, harassed and harmed again now has my address.

Has this happened to anyone else? I don't know what to do, and I don't want to constantly fear that he'll show up. On the one hand, him showing up at my house would strengthen my case against him, but I fear that he'll try to hurt me, hurt my fiance, take my son, or damage my property, as he's keyed my car before. I have a great security system that is not hardwired into the phone lines, security cameras that point to my driveway, back door and on my doorbell, and a big cast iron pan, so I feel relatively safe in my home, but it's still an issue.

I'm so livid about Human Services giving him my address.

Thanks