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Originally Posted by ruh roh
Oh man, I am so sorry, AY. First, about the text set up/let down and then the gay decision. I can't remember what we had been talking about, but it had seemed to me that my therapist referred to choosing orientation and I very plainly said that my understanding was that it's not a choice, and she backtracked, tried to say that's not what she meant. I said if it's a choice, I'm going with straight because it has all the perks society has to offer. Maybe what she'd been talking about was choosing to accept instead of deny orientation, but if so, she wasn't clear. For all the information and training available to therapists, you would think this would not be such a struggle to understand and communicate with clients about.
Anyway, I'm pissed for you that she talked you into texting and then just replied with an appointment confirmation. If it were me, I would feel had.
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I think I was rather peevish last night -- she did add a 'I hope you're okay' to the appointment confirmation. It's just that in my noodle, it felt rather measly (and like her hand was up to shut me up) after I'd just about given her the gory details.
I know, right? The whole queer thing -- honestly, I wish therapists would acknowledge that they're not all there in terms of being totally down with it. They kinda seem to think that just because they don't have the same overt beliefs as the outright homophobes, they don't have a single bit of biased thinking floating around in their bones.
And, honestly, it's much easier in some ways to deal with the overt homophobes coz they know and you know, exactly where everyone stands but in this case, you're trying to persuade someone that they haven't actually thought this stuff through when they think they're more rainbow than you.
It's just......argh.