Hi there.

I have PTSD and I think the best thing you can do is talk to her about how you can be of help.I know for me,depending on what symptoms I am experiencing,I have different needs.

Sometimes I want my husband to just sit with me,sometimes just talk to me,sometimes I just need space and need to be left alone.Even after many years of marriage he tends to forget what I need at different times though and sometimes it makes things worse for me.Like when I need to be left alone,I mean COMPLETELY alone,and he almost always tries to talk to me and checks on me and I end up in worse shape.I wish he would write it all down or something(hey,maybe I should write it all down for him).

Since there is some distance between the two of you,I imagine this can get/be difficult.The only thing I know is you asking her how to help and what she needs and wants.