I don’t think saying something at the outset that you think is true and then realizing later that you were wrong is “dishonest.” What’s important is honesty in the moment.

People change. One day someone says to someone else, “I love you.” And it’s true for them right then and there. Then six months later they realize that’s not true for them anymore. That doesn’t make the earlier statement a lie.

And I think for LT to be able to change these patterns she wants to change she needs him to tell her where he’s uncomfortable and why, as opposed to just waving her on a la MC. What would be dishonest is if he kept pretending he was comfortable with it.