I was on here a little over a month ago. This forum became my only outlet. I wasn't happy in my relationship. I was feeling insecure, a little neglected by my partner who spent heaps of time on his phone. I would get hurt when he didn't message me all day (when I knew he was free) but he would still message his friends. Anyways, I told myself I would go out and make new friends so I wasn't relying on my partner for constant attention and validation.

Well... I've made a new friend! We started chatting on a social group page. I put out a message asking for an exercise buddy. Well he responded. We havent actually hanged out together. It's just been at this social sport club. He was in the same position as me.. not many friends, finding it difficult making friends, especially with the same sex. We've been messaging everyday for 4 weeks. Its innocent chit chat. I've told me about my boyfriend and what he's like etc. I've been upfront and said I just want to be friends nothing else and I don't want him to think I'm leading him on. He understands. It sounds like he has more female friends than male ones.
I've noticed a change in my relationship too. If he doesn't text me while I'm busy at work (I have a busy work schedule and he's unemployed at the moment doing nothing) It doesnt bother me. I don't even notice it. We're still affectionate when I get home. I caught a glimpse of his chatmessenger yesterday and I noticed he's still chatting with other female friends. But it didn't upset me as much as it would have a couple of months ago. I'm not crying on the way to work or hiding out and crying in the shower. I don't feel lonely. I'm generally happier and I think I can Lin it down to this new friend.

Sometimes I feel guilty.. that I'm texting him a lot. But I have to remind myself that I have a right to be friends with who ever I want.

Sometimes I feel a little sad.. my ex boyfriend and I were the bestest of friends. We would msg each other constantly .. But then we didn't live with each other so that could be different? It also didn't work out between us and he used to always say I was very clingy?

I worry what our relationship is becoming and If this "let's msg our friends instead" is healthy. Sometimes I wonder what he's talking to them about.. i wonder what he says to them and how he even keeps the conversation going with them because his responses to me are pretty short. Mostly he msgs me saying where he is "I'm on my way home " I'm at the gym now". Does he come home and tell me the same thing he's told them through the day. The other day he came home and announced he had an interview?? Which he had not told me about at all. I mean.. did he tell them?

I need to stop thinking about this