Thank you both for your perspective and experiences. It's hard for me to see things clearly when the relationship itself isn't horrible - he isn't verbally abusive. But we see things so differently that I often feel like I'm talking to a brick wall when I talk about the things I'm passionate about. For example, I'm a musician and music has always been one of my main coping mechanisms for just about any kind of situation. However, he is very picky about music he will listen to and makes no qualms about how terrible he thinks my music taste is - in 7 years, I can count on one hand the number of times he's let me choose the music when we are together. That might seem like a silly reason to leave a relationship, but 7 years down that road and it starts to feel like I don't matter - does that make sense? I dunno. Realistically, I don't expect or even desire to find a "better" relationship. It's being alone that appeals to me. I'm just scared that this feeling is going to pass and I'm going to realize I've made a horrible mistake. I would love to just give it time and see what happens, but given that we are in the process of making a very big life change I'm starting to feel a sense of urgency. I see this as an opportunity to separate in the most financially healthy way possible and if I don't make it now things could be a lot harder later. I just never know which thoughts to trust because my mental illnesses make everything so cloudy...

I know there's no easy answer and it's hard to get a full picture from the outside, but thank you thank you for taking the time to respond. <3