A couple of things:
1. It seems like your T needs reassurance/confirmation that he's doing his job. My T is the same. If I only talk about my problems, she doesn't see how I'm progressing. So I have to remind myself to share both the good and bad.

2. About the wine/sewage scenario: I'm the same way. If my T does one thing wrong, it has the potential to make me feel like everything is ruined. She says that once I'm in the phase where I think she's "bad", not much will get me out of it. That's why sometimes she doesn't respond to emails because it will only add "fuel to the fire". But when I see her in person, things are different. I'm more open to errors.