Be vulnerable protect what is needed. Admit that you need to be super particular to what the needs of yourself. They do lie, don't take the job serious, are over stressed, going through the motions, just hanging onto the job. They guide you and worry about retailation are being lead on haved form alliances with folks in high places. Please don't put yourself out by trying to get folks to accept you, like the saying goes there are too many fish in the see.