my t once told me that I am a "loveable pain in the as$"
it sparked me to ask him if he does love me
he said that love is a difficult and loaded word especially given my history (true). he said I care about you very much
I don't find a therapist having any feelings to be unethical. what I do find unethical is how the therapist deals with these feelings in regards to the client and their therapy. I think every situation is different on the topic of a therapist expressing love to their client. I find what is appropriate and what isn't varies a lot given the context
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Originally Posted by Tbhimscared
I saw my T today and when I answered a question she said something along the lines of "That's what I love about you" or "that's something I love about you". It was quick and cheerful comment and I know ethically T's aren't really supposed to love their clients but I keep thinking about it.
What do you think this means? I want my T to love me but I know that that can't happen and that feeling is part of my abandonment issues and problems with my family. A lot of the time the word "love" is thrown around in common phrases and I'm sure this is what she meant by it.
Can Ts ethically have those feelings for clients?
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