I can relate. I’ve heard it somewhere and my therapist mentioned it: “We can only be as happy as our unhappiest child”. So true.

When my son in law died in tragic circumstances it was the most horrible time in my life because of how my daughter suffered. I can’t even describe how bad that was. Mine also lives far and I see her just few times a year the most. I have no advice. Just understanding.

You might want to ask her what would she find helpful? Visit? Skype?

Hang in there. Parenting never really stops