I can't answer that. I have a vague idea of how you feel, but no idea how he feels. I have a brief description of what he did but not a strong idea of what provoked it. Like.. you said he got mad about your phobia of wasps. Obviously SOMETHING happened. I can't see you guys chillin on the couch and you just bein like 'i have a phobia of wasps btw' and him responding with 'I'm gonna take you home and leave you there because you said that'. Now if it did happen that way that would be disturbing. But thats the thing. None of us know objectively what played out in the situations you allude to. Obviously it sounds odd for him to respond that way to a wasp phobia when put so simply.. but again. I just don't know the real situation. I can't say much about his behavior of 'being annoyed' about your anxiety levels either. I just don't know how he is truly behaving with you or how you are behaving with him in these scenarios. I wish you the best in luck in understanding the situation.