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Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian
I’ve been through a traumatic event which I get no help for - no parents, no friends, nobody
I talk to a therapist and they don’t help me out despite putting precious resources into it
I am becoming hopeless, more stressed and through with it
I just wanted to succeed in my own way, to battle all the odds. But instead, I am buttered up instead of bucked up, and I won’t be able to fight the odds that way
I have been through harsh events which I require great strength in order to fight, and I have not found anyone to help me well against those events which have happened against ME
What will I ever do?
Every treatment is stepping on burning charcoals, instead of helping me take immediate action towards my aim
One of the things I hate about therapy (and let’s not talk about psychiatric treatments), is the in-action reflection that you are weak and the reinforcement of that view - ALWAYS finding weaknesses, and I am THROUGH with it!
Always unlistening, and I am done with it!
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I could certainly be wrong, but I bolded some of your statements which seem to be in direct contradiction, and therefore impossible!!
Can you change your expectations of therapy, maybe? It sounds like you're feeling pretty desperate? I definitely know that feeling, been going with it one moment at a time for quite a while.
There are probably lots of ways that people try to deal with feelings of desperation. And if you didn't have support for yourself growing up, which it has sounded like you didn't, then the "normal" tendency to reach out for help and contact with other humans can be kind of. . .messed up? I know mine has been, but therapy to un-mess it? Lots of problems with the current state of the profession from what I've been through. Just the way it is.
I understand, too, the desire to "go it alone", since other people are so unreliable -- starting with family members, of course. That sucks, too, but just the way it is. And terribly lonely if one can't find a way out of that!
Given that, I'll ask again -- what, if anything, do you think this current therapist has to offer you? What did you think they had to offer when you hired him/her? If they do not have what you thought they would, can you find anything of value which they have had for you? Sometimes something is better than nothing, sometimes of course not!!