Thank you friends for the valuable insight. I have slept on this and between the your kind suggestions and the fresh perspective it is easier to not heed my gut reaction. Yes, he made a doozy of a mistake but it happens. He has likely thought of this now himself and probably learned from it. I have managed to refrain from the what-I-would-have-done thing, thankfully. And you are right, one holds hands with their loved one even after they have faltered.