So, Blondie decided to self-disclose a bunch yesterday to try to somehow show that there’s norm or something of children not ever giving money to their parents (my latest saga of sending money over but not quite sure for what as yet).

Apparently, her parents are alive and divorced and father has lots of health issues and is running out of money to pay for his care but her mom is paying for him although they’re divorced (and Blondie does a whole lot of other care stuff for him).

But, neither Blondie nor her siblings have ever even discussed financially contributing for his care or to their parents in general.

I’m not quite sure why she’s hung up on the principle of the thing or something — that children must never pay for their parents. It seems one of her husband’s relatives had to become a ward of the state when they didn’t have money (rather than take it from their kids).

I find the position rather extreme and really not in sync with what I expect happens usually (even leaving aside our cultural differences) but she’s really stuck on it through all this time I’ve been seeing her.

And, I’d tell her that I think it’s nuts but now that she’s disclosed her own situation, I kinda feel like if I say anything, it’ll be passing judgment on her. She already seems fairly sensitive — I was talking about feeling like an arsehole about not sending money etc and she said “Well, maybe I’m an arsehole”.

Argh.