Oh, Blondie...it’s not about you.

I’m kind of shocked her siblings are not helping out with (genuine) medical expenses. Her I’d excuse if she’s doing other caretaking stuff (same principle as the economic contribution of SAHMs). And letting their mother shoulder the burden when who knows how well-set their mother is? She’s not even related to him.

(Provided of course there isn’t some history of abuse.)

I do not think your cases are the same, though. In her case, she’s not giving money to someone with genuine medical expenses. In your case you are giving money for questionable medical expenses to people who have lied to you in the past about their requests for money in ways that have negatively affected your life and financial well-being.

So I guess I think she is simultaneously right, and wrong.